There's a long-standing tradition in American politics that former presidents do not publicly criticize their predecessors. That's not to say it doesn't happen, but it's usually rare and they try not to make it too personal.
Barack Obama was relatively quiet about his successor Donald Trump until he took a veiled shot at him at a speech in South Africa in 2018. He railed against Trump for his "strongman politics," whereby "those in power seek to undermine every institution or norm that gives democracy meaning."
Most recently, in leaked audio from a conference call, Obama said Trump's response to COVID-19 is "absolute chaotic disaster."
However, Obama's broach of presidential decorum shouldn't reflect poorly on his character. After all, Trump's presidency is unlike any in U.S. history. The president has zero regard for presidential traditions or upholding the decency of the office.
Furthermore, Trump came to political power through the original sin of championing the "birther" conspiracy theory and incorrectly claiming Obama was born in Kenya. It was an underhanded racist attack and an attempt to undermine the legitimacy of his presidency.
Currently, Trump's accusing Obama of being complicit on a fake scandal dubbing it "Obamagate." According to NBC NewsTrump has "attacked Obama to an extent no other president has done to a predecessor."
It should come as no surprise that Trump has refused to hold an unveiling ceremony for Obama at the White House as long as he is in office. Sources who've spoken to NBC News say that Obama also has zero interest in attending such a ceremony with Trump.
"You've got a president who's talking about putting the previous one in legal jeopardy, to put it nicely. We have not seen a situation like that in history," said presidential historian Michael Beschloss. "It takes antipathy of a new president for a predecessor to a new level."
The ceremony goes back to 1978 when President Jimmy Carter presented Gerald Ford with his presidential painting. Carter had defeated Ford just two years earlier.
Most recently, Barack Obama presented George W. Bush with his painting in 2012. "We may have our differences politically," Obama said of Bush, "but the presidency transcends those differences."
"When you are wandering these halls as you wrestle with tough decisions," Bush joked, "you will now be able to gaze at this portrait and ask, what would George do?"
Let's hope that the Trump era is a historical anomaly and we can return to a time when our leaders can put the office of the president above petty squabbling.
"If the Presidents Club had a seal, around the ring would be three words: cooperation, competition, and consolation," Nancy Gibbs, author of "The Presidents Club," wrote. "On the one hand, the presidents have powerful motives — personal and patriotic — to help one another succeed and comfort one another when they fail. But at the same time, they all compete for history's blessing."
It seems that Trump's character flaws only allow him to care about one, which is ultimately competition. It's three years into his presidency and it appears that history's blessing will elude him, as well.
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This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.