How one tragedy sparked a literacy movement.

The proverbial middle of the night phone call. It’s a benign cliché, the stuff you read about in stories—until it’s your phone that rings at 4 a.m. My family’s middle-of-the-night call came on May 6, 1995. It was the police, calling to tell us that my sister Melissa, then a 22-year-old senior at Washington University, had been killed—just two weeks shy of her graduation.

I was 10 years old at the time, my brother was about to graduate from high school, and my parents couldn’t comprehend how the world’s natural order had been so jarringly disrupted.

Melissa and her friend were walking back to their car after a casual Cinco de Mayo dinner. Two teenagers approached Melissa and her friend at gunpoint and forced them into a car. They shot and killed Melissa, and proceeded to rape and shoot her friend. Miraculously, my sister’s friend not only survived but convicted them, ensuring that the two men would never again have the opportunity to destroy another life.

The exaggerated platitudes often used to describe someone once they’ve passed away were sheer fact when it came to Melissa. She was beautiful, vibrant, smart, funny, and kind, an adoring sister and daughter. It was beyond comprehension that two teenagers out for an evening of cruel entertainment could have snuffed out Melissa’s bright light in such a senseless, random act of violence.

Melissa’s death was unbearable and unfathomable to my tight-knit family. The grief was palpable, but we vowed that we would not live in fear, not allow evil to prevail.

It was around a year later that the criminal process concluded and the jagged agony of loss started to subside into a dull sadness. My family was just learning to navigate a new world in which we had to contemplate acceptable answers to perfunctory questions, answers we still grapple with 15 years later: How many siblings do you have? How many children do you have?

My parents decided to take action to prevent violence from causing this pain in others. Our family helped establish The Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment—a nonprofit organization dedicated to the study and prevention of violence through education, community service, research support and consultation. With scientific evidence that violence is preventable, our mission is to promote safer communities through the application of research-based knowledge. It is unacceptable for anyone to live in a world where a violent crime is committed every 30 seconds, a murder every 30 minutes.

The Melissa Institute is in the midst of developing our most ambitious project to date—a literacy Web site that will prevent violence and save lives.

A few relevant facts: Up to 80 percent of incarcerated individuals are functionally illiterate; studies show that if a child reads on grade level by the end of 3rd grade, there is a 99 percent certainty that child will never be incarcerated; school performance, more than any other single factor, is a major contributor as to whether a youth becomes involved in drugs or violence.

Currently, we are allowing at-risk children to fall through the cracks and enter a path towards failure.

Perhaps even more shocking is the fact that teachers are only required to take only one or two undergraduate course in literacy instruction. If we are not properly educating teachers to teach reading skills to students, how can we expect our students to learn to read?

Dr. Dale Willows, a leader with more than 35 years of experience in the field and a member of the National Reading Panel, is developing this literacy web site for The Melissa Institute.

It will be a universally accessible, free program that will be used as a professional development tool for teachers of pre-K to third grade students. The program has been field-tested with astounding results in diverse sites, across ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds. We have found, unequivocally, that the program works.

For instance, a school in Hialeah, Florida, went from having 37 percent of children passing the reading proficiency exam to 56 percent after the first year and 62 percent after the second year. Further, several schools in Jackson, Mississippi went from 65 percent proficiency in the base year to 83 percent in the first year and 96 percent in the fifth year.

This initiative will save lives—the lives of potential victims, and the lives of children who are destined to go down a violent path if we do not intervene. Beyond all else, we want to prevent another family from receiving that life-altering middle of the night call, and from unnecessarily losing a loved one to violence far before their time.

Photo (cc) via Flickr user Ozyman

Jessica Aptman is involved in her family’s nonprofit organization, The Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment.

  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Otis knew before they did. Canva

    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

    ZZBC | Reddit

    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

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    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

  • Throughout history, women have stood up and fought to break down barriers imposed on them from stereotypes and societal expectations. The trailblazers in these photos made history and redefined what a woman could be. In doing so, they paved the way for future generations to stand up and continue to fight for equality.

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    Why mass shootings spawn conspiracy theories

    Mass shootings and conspiracy theories have a long history.

    While conspiracy theories are not limited to any topic, there is one type of event that seems particularly likely to spark them: mass shootings, typically defined as attacks in which a shooter kills at least four other people.

    When one person kills many others in a single incident, particularly when it seems random, people naturally seek out answers for why the tragedy happened. After all, if a mass shooting is random, anyone can be a target.

    Pointing to some nefarious plan by a powerful group – such as the government – can be more comforting than the idea that the attack was the result of a disturbed or mentally ill individual who obtained a firearm legally.


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