A couple of years ago, I worked as a mentor coach for beginning high school English teachers. We met once a month to discuss best practices and classroom management strategies—but mostly, we met to give these new teachers an opportunity to talk and ask questions. And boy, did they. They wanted to know about communicating with parents, dealing with administrators, and lesson planning. They wanted to know about scheduling conferences, evaluations, and implementing individualized education plans for students with disabilities.
Mostly, though, they wanted to know if it was always so hard. My co-coach and I answered as gently as we could: The first year is hardest, but teaching is always hard. Great, but hard.
It’s a lot to ask of someone—getting them fired up for a career that’s always going to be challenging and tends to not be very financially rewarding, and that’s simultaneously lacking in respect and drowning in sentimentality. Small wonder that so many teachers burn out.
Money is often a powerful motivator to stay in a job, but a high salary isn’t typically in the cards for beginning teachers. And even if it were a possibility, studies have shown that over time, financial rewards aren’t enough to retain top talent, no matter the gig. So, what can we offer besides a bigger paycheck that sends the message that teaching is still a worthy—and worthwhile—profession?
Put time and attention into building and maintaining an effective mentoring program.
The concern I heard—and still hear—most frequently from new teachers, about-to-be teachers, and people thinking about being teachers is “Who will be looking out for me?” New teachers need a consistent, available source of support and encouragement, and getting it makes a difference. A study released in 2015 by the National Center for Education Statistics found that 92 percent of first-year teachers assigned a mentor came back for a second year, while only 84 percent of teachers without mentors returned. Even more compelling, after five years, 86 percent of mentored teachers were still in the classroom, while only 71 percent of unmentored teachers were still on the job. For those doing the mentoring, this might be compensated with a small stipend, compensatory leave time, or recertification points.
Secure their benefits.
Fully paid health insurance and retirement pensions are often offered to educators. Keep them—cutting these benefits means that, in addition to accepting a low salary, new teachers are expected to foot the bill for their healthcare now through insurance, as well as later in retirement.
Commit to tuition reimbursement, or a partnership for free classes through a college or university.
This is particularly relevant for courses that are required to receive or maintain licensure. Given that new, fresh-out-of-college educators are just starting to feel the burden of paying their student loans, eliminating the costs of additional teaching endorsements or other employment-necessitated training really can give their bank accounts a boost. In a report released in 2016, the nonprofit Learning Policy Institute suggests that schools “offer forgivable loans and service scholarships to attract and retain teachers to high-need fields and locations.”
[quote position="full" is_quote="true"]Treating teachers like they’re robots is a surefire way to push them out the door. [/quote]
Give teachers a real say in how their schools—and classrooms—are run.
Treating teachers like they’re robots who implement top-down reforms and curricula is a surefire way to push them out the door. “The data consistently show us that a big issue is how much voice, how much say, do teachers have collectively in the school-wide decisions that affect their jobs?” said Richard Ingersoll, a professor of education and sociology at the University of Pennsylvania and expert on teacher retention in a 2015 interview with the National Education Association. Instead of giving teachers autonomy to meet the needs of students, “they’re told to stick to the scripted curriculum, which might work for a weaker teacher but it drives good teachers nuts,” said Ingersoll.
Above all, take care of teachers and treat them with respect. Make sure that no new teacher is scratching together the cash to feed themselves for the first month before that initial check gets deposited. Ask if they need the posters that the library no longer uses, the extra notebooks that were left behind at the end of the previous year, or the box of pens that are a weird color but will be fine for the kids who keep forgetting to bring one. Talk to them. Ask how it’s going. Because it’s not enough to just attract new teachers—we have to make them want to stick around long enough to become great at what they do.
Grieving couple comforting each other
This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.