Last month, the students of the schools in Frederick County, Maryland, returned to a more inclusive educational environment thanks to the hard work of 17-year-old James van Kuilenburg. After the Trump administration revoked federal guidance that said transgender students have the right to use public school restrooms that match their gender identity, a group led by van Kuilenburg went to the school board to make schools safe for transgender students.
Beginning in February, van Kuilenburg, along with fellow students, parents, and educators, launched a Facebook page, held rallies, and went to the local school board to make their schools more inclusive for transgender students. “There’s no procedure, and there’s no policy,” 15-year-old transgender student Maxx Frazier, told the school board, “and it’s worrying because right now with the election and the results of that, a lot of people feel they have the right to hate.”
16-Year-Old ... - https://t.co/DlyTyfkdoZ - #Discrimination #Gop #JamesVanKuilenburg #Lgbt #Entert pic.twitter.com/MpUWCDy5Yh
— Sonething News (@sonething_news) April 25, 2016
The group’s efforts led the school board to vote 5 to 1 to allow transgender students to use the bathrooms and locker rooms that fit with their identity. They can also participate in sports that align with their gender identity as well. Children who are uncomfortable with the new policy are provided with non-stigmatizing alternatives such as privacy curtains or changes to their locker room schedules.
“I see it as one of the most comprehensive transgender student policies in the country,” Jabari Lyles, executive director of GLSEN Maryland, a group that advocates for LGBTQ students, told The Washington Post.
The policy took effect over summer vacation is already facing a legal challenge. A lawsuit was filed in August on behalf of the mother of a 15-year-old student who feels the policy makes her unsafe and that she’s humiliated to undress in front of the “opposite sex.” The suit was filed by Dan Cox, a Republican candidate for the Maryland House of Delegates in 2018.
To show support for their transgender classmates, students have started a social media campaign #IAmFrederick.
participate in my photo campaign: #IAmFrederick ! all u have to do is print out this sign, fill it out, and take a pic pic.twitter.com/uT0bzNBN2Q
— james (@jamesvank) September 8, 2017
#IAmFrederick #protecttranskids may be in Towson, but Frederick is home pic.twitter.com/lD1a0NsXg8
— Frank Biggs (@Only_Frank_) September 10, 2017
#IamFrederick and I support trans youth because ALL of our students deserve to be treated with love and respect! … https://t.co/ilw9w9losZ pic.twitter.com/JVa0jlRxlp
— Fair Winds Teaching (@FairWindsTeach) September 14, 2017
Each and every human being deserves equal moral regard. This is the fight for what's right. #IAmFrederick pic.twitter.com/WUPbxyz5Rw
— Donna Kuzemchak (@DonnaKFrederick) September 19, 2017
Dr. King reminding us that the fight doesn't stop until we are all truly free to be ourselves! #iamfrederick pic.twitter.com/Uxil46n7cG
— Dan Green (@MrGreenUMS) September 12, 2017
Grieving couple comforting each other
This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.