The contrast between the two types of relationships was striking.
The beauty and horror of screenshots is that they let us save our text messages indefinitely, long after we’ve moved on—or the world has moved on from us. Keeping old texts from exes can be useful when you need a reminder of why the relationship ended. Other times, they highlight just how good things are now.
At least, they did for the Twitter user May Larsen, who recently posted screenshots of two text threads with two very different men. One exchange shows how an old conversation went down with an emotionally manipulative ex. The other screenshot is a prime example of what communication in a healthy partnership looks like.
The emotional dynamics of this exchange are full of red flags.
Difference between a boy and a man. pic.twitter.com/2iwE9jDEKY
— Mayc (@MaycPeterson2) August 8, 2018
This ex (boyfriend, hookup, whatever he was) went from 0-100 in no time. In fact, the ONLY way this kind of freak out would be excusable would be if they had prior plans she ditched on alternately, if he was doing a performance art bit where he embodied Drake's 0-100 via text message. Outside of those possibilities, this type of reaction is nothing short of manipulation and emotional abuse.
The second text message showed how Larsen's current partner responds to a simple night out.
The difference between these responses to a simple night out on the town is night and day. When comparing the two messages, the red flags really pop. Regardless of whether the rest of us are pro cowboy hat (I'm pro if you can pull it off), it seems they've got a healthy situation going. Communication is key, in any kind of relationship.
This article originally appeared five years ago
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